Barry Adkins: “The Two Most Important Decisions”
“It’s just alcohol; at least they are not doing drugs.” How many of us have said this, heard it, or thought it? Often we think that as long as they are “just drinking” our children will be okay. The truth is, most illegal drugs are tried, for the first time, under the influence of alcohol. Alcohol kills more than all illegal drugs combined. Try using Google to search for the term “alcohol abuse,” and check out how many results you get.
Those precious children that you have held, burped, changed diapers and loved, have hopes and dreams. They dream of growing up and finding a cure for cancer, making the world a better place, being president, (insert your child’s dream here). They will be faced with many decisions that will determine whether their hopes and dreams are realized. Decisions like where they want to go to college, what they want to study, where they want to live, etc.
All important decisions, no doubt, but the two most important decisions your child will ever make are about drugs and alcohol. Make one bad decision with respect to drugs or alcohol and all of the above hopes and dreams are gone, vanished into thin air.
It’s too late for my son, Kevin, but it’s not too late for your child. The decisions your child makes about drugs and alcohol will have a profound effect on how their lives turn out. Educate yourself, and then educate your children. Act as if their lives depend on it, because they do.
When you lose a child the most that you can hope for is to make something very good come from it. That is what I plan to spend the rest of my life doing.
Something very good will come from this.
Barry Adkins is an inspirational public speaker, and author of the book “Kevin’s Last Walk: A Father’s Final Journey With His Son.” He is perhaps best known for completing a 1,400 mile walk from Arizona to Montana with his son Kevin’s ashes in his backpack, in order to raise awareness of the dangers of binge drinking. Barry can be reached via his website at kevinslastwalk.com.